There are tons of lists out there about what you absolutely must include when planning for your wedding. Something borrowed, something blue. And don't forget your venue, vendors, guest list, invitations, welcome book, registry, seating charts, wedding day timeline, photographer, flowers, caterer, musicians, wedding playlist, guest welcome bags, bridesmaids gifts, and wedding day emergency kit.
Today, let's simplify your To Do list by looking at a few key Don't's for your big day.
As you're planning your wedding, don't:
- Forget to Plan for Comfort. When you're in the hustle and bustle of planning out your day, you are likely thinking of it as an event (and a party) and worrying about everything you and your guests are going to be doing at each moment. The events of the day are important, but no one wants to rush from one activity to the next. Don't over schedule and don't forget to build a little wiggle room into your timeline. Be sure that your guests have time to mingle and meet each other before the ceremony and between the ceremony and the reception. You should also remember to include breaks for yourself and your wedding party throughout the day. And food. You and your wedding party must eat and drink as you get ready unless you want fainting bridesmaids and groomsmen on your hands.
- Let Everyone Get Involved. The biggest mistake that most brides-to-be make is trying to please too many people. Of course you want everyone to be comfortable and to feel welcomed, and of course you care about what your parents, grandparents, siblings, and close friends think and want. But too many chefs spoil the soup. If you give everyone a voice about who sits where or what you'll serve at your reception, you'll only end up confused and frustrated. Hiring a professional wedding coordinator can serve as a much-needed buffer between you and other people who have opinions about your wedding. A wedding planner is also a great resource who can avoid and deflect any behind-the-scenes wedding stress on your big day.
- Wait Until The Last Minute. Not everyone likes to plan, and that's OK. If you're a spontaneous person who doesn't like to dwell on details, consider asking for outside help, whether that's your mom, a close friend, or a professional wedding planner. Planning time varies depending on what kind of wedding you want to have, but ideally you should begin 9 to 12 months before your date.
- Overthink It or Panic. On the flip side of the coin, you also don't want to drag out your planning unnecessarily or stress over every little thing on your wedding day. Ultimately, aside from all of the jitters and nagging details, this day is supposed to be exciting and fun for you. If you're the kind of Type A personality who finds it difficult to go with the flow and enjoy the moment once the event has begun, engaging the services of a wedding planner who you trust to handle the details could be a wise move. A wedding coordinator can prevent panic and ensure that you have nothing to worry about other than greeting guests, looking pretty, and dancing the night away.
With so much to keep track of, it's no wonder that many brides go overboard, over budget, and end up feeling overwhelmed and unhappy. It doesn't have to be this way!